Welcome to Discovering the Male Mysteries with Mel Mystery. This blog is a supplement to my podcast is for and about gay and bi pagan men. My podcasts are about what it is to be gay, what it is to be pagan, what it is to be men — sometimes as separate topics and sometimes all meshed together as one. I started this endeavor after seeing that there were few, if any, podcasts out there on this topic. The podcasts are informative, and present topics that challenge conventional thinking.

General Updates

My latest podcast is now available.

Mystery manEpisode 19: Your Magickal Playlist

In this episode, I talk about using music in your magick spells, rituals, and other works.  I discuss creating a magickal playlist and what types of music you might want to include. There is also a segment on the Greek Goddess of male-male love – Aphrodite Urania.

You can listen to the latest episode on my website (www.melmystery.com) or my Podbean page (https://melmystery.podbean.com/)

Personal Updates:

If you’ve been keeping up with my blog and my podcasts, you might have noticed I’ve been relatively quiet for a while.  I’m not sure this is exactly breaking news since my blog posts and podcasts have always been sporadic at best.  Even so, I wanted to give folks some updates, especially now that we are in this big Corona Virus pandemic.

First of all, I’m safe and employed.  I work for a university.  We closed for a week and transitioned over to teleworking.  Last week, I had the full week’s vacation that I’ve been putting off for a while and it gave me the chance to take care of little projects around the house that have been nagging at me for a while.  I’ve been staying close to home mostly with periodic expeditions to the grocery store.  I have toilet paper – for now.  I’m nervously hopeful the stores will restock before I run out.

We did have to cancel the Brotherhood by the Bog retreat that was scheduled for last weekend.  I was disappointed, but it was probably for the best.  I’m not sure how this pandemic will affect the Arcadia Gathering in October, but at least we’re still about six month’s out right now.  We have a private campground booked in Northwest Virginia and I’ve been approaching potential keynote speakers for the event.  I had been looking at the possibility of attending a general Pagan gathering this summer – perhaps the Pagan Unity Festival in Tennessee or Fire’s Rising at Four Quarters, but given the current uncertainty I might be gearing up for a summer staycation instead.

My “spare time” the past year or two has been mostly focused on home repairs and improvements and decluttering my life.  Many of you know that I have my heart set on getting my childhood home back.  In order to do that, I need to get the best price for my current house, weed out some of my excess clutter to make a move more manageable, and eventually start job hunting there.  Right now, with the Corona Virus epidemic, I’m happy to have a secure job that allows me to telework.  I know there are so many people living with more financial insecurity than I am right now.  I’m not sure right now is the time for me to start job hunting, but the extra time at home is allowing me to take care of other things that will help me to move forward when the right time comes.

My book writing has been largely on hold since I’ve been spending so much of my time on other priorities.  I do hope to get back to writing soon, and perhaps being home bound will give me more opportunity to write.  For anyone interested, The Gay Guy’s Guide to Werewolves and Other Man Beasts is available from my Lulu store.

As for blogs and podcasts, I have a few ideas for some future blog posts and podcast episodes.  I’m hoping that I can leverage a little more of my time to at least getting out the next podcast which is long overdue.  In times like these, we need to try just a little harder to remain connected.  I know that blogs and podcasts are outlets that folks use to feel connected.

I hope everyone out there is staying safe!

Discovering Arcadia: A Gay Magickal Utopia, Part 3

Arcadia Gathering

Youths and Satyr

Youths and a Young Satyr by Hans Thoma, 1890 (Public Domain)

“Arcadia” has been adopted as the name of a new gathering for Queer Pagan Men in the East Coast / Mid-Atlantic region of the U.S.  While there have been such gatherings before, such as the Mid-Atlantic Men’s Gathering and Coph Nia, we are not aware of any current camping gatherings specifically for gay and bi Pagan or Hellenist men in the region.  The closest gathering is “Between the Worlds” in Ohio, and there are many more gatherings on the West coast.

Arcadia will be held October 9-12, 2019 at a state campground in Cumberland, Virginia.  The gathering is open to Queer men of Pagan, Hellenist, and other Earth-based spiritualities.  All respectful seekers over the age of 18 who feel they would gain something from attending are welcome including trans folks, women, and our straight and non-Pagan friends – though all should be aware that most of our workshops, rituals, and activities will be primarily aimed toward Queer Pagan Men.

The theme of the first gathering is “Discovering Arcadia: Empowering Queer Men’s Spirituality.” The patron deity for our first event is the Greek god Pan.

Because this is a first-time event and because our planning committee is small, we are asking folks attending the event to help us co-create the space and to help us spread the word.  We are specifically looking for folks to help with planning and running the event.  We are looking for workshop, ritual, and activity presenters.  We also have a contest going on to help design our event logo.  If you’re artistic, please consider participating (see website for details).  We want this event to succeed, not because it is the idea of any one person or group, but because the Queer Pagan community sees it as something valuable and because individuals within the community are willing to step up and do their part to make it a success.

For more information and to register: http://www.olympuscampgroundresort.com/index.php/events/arcadia

Latest Podcast Available — Episode 17B: The Conspiracy Show, Part 2

My latest podcast episode is now online.

This is a continuation of the “conspiracy” episode.  Part one came out in January.  In this episode, I’ll be talking more about the Web Bot and possible biases in the algorithm.  I’ll be exploring why conspiracy theorists are so obsessed with pedophilia.  And I’ll be explaining my own system for evaluating conspiracy theories.

You can listen to this episode directly from my website (below) or through iTunes or Podbean.


Latest Podcast Available Now — Episode 17A: The Conspiracy Show Part 1

My latest podcast episode is out.

The newest episode is all about conspiracy theories — why we love them, some of the more popular theories, and how right-wing conservatives are a hotbed of conspiracy theories during the Trump presidency.  We’ll also explore my friend David’s wild “conspiracy” theories about North Dakota.

This is part 1 of a two part episode.  Part 2 will be out in the near future.

You can listen to the newest episode on my website at: http://www.melmystery.com/

It is also available on Podbean and iTunes.

Latest podcast now available — Episode 14: The Update Show

In episode 14: The Update Show, I provide updates on what I’ve been up to including:

  • Conferences and gatherings – The Hero’s Adventure, Querent, and Between the Worlds
  • Updates on my book and an LGBT werewolf workshop I’m hoping to do at Marscon
  • My photography
  • My local LGBTQ / Pagan / Alternative website
  • Activism
  • Groups including the New Order of Chaeronea and Order of the Stone Circle
  • My big project – I’m working toward starting a campground / retreat center
  • Personal updates

You can find my show on my website: http://www.melmystery.com, and through iTunes and Podbean.